HOW TO BE THE DRIVER IN YOUR LIFE

Don't take the backseat in your life.

Don’t take the backseat in your life.

The bottom line is this, you want success, happiness and fulfilment in your life. It’s all anyone really wants for themselves. YOU WANT TO BE IN THE DRIVING SEAT when it comes to your life’s outcome.

You’ve probably found yourself wondering on numerous occasions, how do I go about getting what I want in life? How do I get my life’s worth?

What I’m going to share with you is something you already know, but more than likely haven’t fully committed to. Seldom do people ever opt to do that which is emotionally challenging.

Why? The answer is obvious. IT’S DAMN UNCOMFORTABLE!

But….

Where there’s difficulty there’s development!!

You already know this. Deep down in the furthest, darkest depths of your soul you know this rings true, but you’ve been deceiving yourself. (I know I did for a very long time).

What you have to grasp is this. Human beings are organisms, and on a very basic, primitive level, have hardwired into their psyche a longing/ desire for comfort and ease.

Look at it objectively and logically. How many times has your mind led you in the polar opposite direction to what you initially intended?

Example: You know you need to go to the gym to keep your body in condition, yet your mind tells you it’s ok to skip it because you had a hard day at work.

That’s just one case. There’s more!!

Example: You’ve got work to do, but instead your mind tells you it’s ok to play video games or watch tv and get back to work later.

The dangerous part of this all, is the self-rationalisation that occurs. You ultimately convince yourself that you deserve to take it easy.

There’s no shame, it happens to the best of us.

Like I said earlier, “Humans are attracted to comfort.” (Or at least the idea and feeling of it).

The irony is that, by embracing the challenging path and demanding more of yourself, you’ll actually experience greater satisfaction and comfort as a result. It’s completely counterintuitive. Sounds crazy, but it damn sure is the case.

Now, I’m not saying that you should never take breaks or maintain and rigorous schedule all the time. However, chances are if you aren’t where you want to be in life or haven’t got the kind of results you want, you need to get your priorities straight and cut some comfort from your life.

To achieve your dreams and become a greater human being along the way you need to tread down the uncommon path.

I’ve always maintained that, “ Mediocrity is the far frequented path of many. The path of success is a lonely less traveled road.”

So if you demand more from life, you first need to demand more of yourself.

Do what’s emotionally challenging for you.

  • If you always take hot showers, take a few cold ones.
  • If you’re uncomfortable talking to people, you need to go out and talk to more people.
  • If you love eating junk food and you need to lose weight, guess what you need to cut the crappy foods and start eating healthier.
  • If you struggle with public speaking or speaking in front of crowds, you need to do it a few times to get over that fear.

At first the emotionally challenging thing seems daunting, but once you actually get into a habit of moving towards and challenging yourself, you grow and develop as a person.

Your personal development will improve and you’ll be more inclined to reaching success, happiness and fulfilment that others around you wish they could have.

In fact your peers and family will likely envy you. Take that as a sign that you’re making progress and keep going no matter what. Don’t be swayed by the opinions of others and don’t allow them to demean you.

“If you do what everybody else does, you’ll get what everybody else gets.”

 So far we’ve just covered one simple principle, however, if implemented correctly, overtime it’ll pay off massively.

 Now it’s all good and well doing things, even difficult things when you’re motivated to do them

I don’t care much for motivation, simply because it’s temporary. Motivation is a mind pump. Similar to the pump you’d experience in the gym, it comes and goes. It’s here now and gone an hour later.

The truth of the matter is, you’re going to encounter moments in life where you’ll be incredibly motivated to achieve your goals, but it is not a permanent state.

More often than not you’ll have to slog and go through downright hell to move closer to your goals. You’ve got to be mentally prepared to do the hard, emotionally difficult thing.

To develop the willpower, mindset and discipline necessary to get what you want in life.

That’s the real test, and if you can go through it you’ll emerge a stronger, better more efficient individual.

On the flip side, If you rely on motivation and succumb to using it like a crutch, you’ll never see your ambitions come to fruition.

In short, you’ve got to be prepared to do what is required, in spite of whether you feel amped to do it or not.

There are no shortcuts in life. If you want more, put in more effort and you’ll get more from it.

Ultimately the buck starts and stops with you. It’s your call. Take complete responsibility for every aspect of your life and understand all your successes and failures in life are on you.

Remember, “There’s no success without struggle.”

 

THE 3 STEP STRATEGY TO SUCCESS

3 steps to success

Today folks, I’m going to cover something that’s so simple, yet massively critical to your success (or lack thereof) in virtually every facet of your life.

First up, I want to get something straight.

Despite the title of this article, the path to success is a largely unique and somewhat unknown journey. There is no clear-cut, single path to achieving success.

There is no “one size fits all” road map to success. Your success is going to be individual. It’s unique to you, your business, development etc. It’s in direct relation to your life situation.

You can’t recreate the exact same success of others. Your success is your success. See it as such.

Another point worth mentioning, that’ll save you a ton of frustration is:

When you take the first step towards your goals, it’s like stepping off into the unknown.

You’ll be forced into the darkness without any light.

You’ll come face to face with your biggest enemy. The enemy within.

It’s the unknown that scares the hell out of people and the biggest cause of procrastination. That fear of the unkown holds them back, preventing them from pursuing their passion.

Understand and accept the fact that you won’t have the answers to everything. (Especially in the beginning). You’ll figure things out as you gradually progress, grow in experience and ascend that success ladder.

The point of this article, is to give you the basic, essential steps to get you started on your journey of personal development, growth and without sounding to damn repetitive, SUCCESS.

Here goes…

THE 3 STEPS TO SUCCESS:

  • Vision
  • Action
  • Hard Work

Step 1: Vision

Have a clear, precise vision. What do you have to impart onto and impact this world? What part do you have to play? How can you add value and lead to the betterment of humanity and the world around?

Personal example: When I created WARRIOR 101, I had a distinct vision to help others realize their potential to get into the best shape they could. It was based on my own experience and what I’d found to be effective in my own physique pursuit.

Step 2: Action

Once you have your vision, go forth and work endlessly to see it come to fruition. Put your soul and entire being into fuelling whatever you seek to create. Ultimately you’ve got to take the initiative and JUST FRIGGING DO IT.

Personal example: Having clearly laid out the vision, I got to work, writing, illustrating and compiling everything together. It took months of work, since I was doing everything myself.

Nights spent editing, re-writing interspersed with days spent working on illustrations and taking photos.

I wrote. I wrote till my fingers bled and my nails turned blue, then I wrote some more. (Just my little Fight Club parody).

Which brings me onto the next point.

Step 3: Hard, Hard, Work

Work your ass off. Once you’ve taken the plunge, work diligently to achieve your goals and reach your pinnacle.

Realise and understand that you will face struggles, battle hardships along the way. Hey, Life’s hard. The universe will present challenges to you.

They’re tests to see how committed you are to your initial vision.

Do you have the conviction to follow through and see it to completion?

It’s simple, fairly basic stuff that, once you grasp and utilise will greatly benefit from. (I know I have).

We all know this deep down inside. In fact anybody that ever achieved anything noteworthy used these basic steps to get the ball rolling and propel them.

It’s like the skeleton, the backbone of achievement.

Unfortunately, few of us actually ever take the time to implement. It’s an unfortunate consequence of the world we live in today.

The pace of life is driving us to want results now, without putting in the time and effort to earn it.

This is apparent via the sheer number of people sucking and leeching on the system, claiming benefits for which they have no entitlement.

Essentially it comes down to this:

If you haven’t worked and sweated to earn something, you won’t appreciate the true value. It’s just another dispensable item.

I’m on this journey, like the rest of you. I haven’t reached the pinnacle of my success, if there is such a thing.

However, I’ve gone through a hell of a lot of personal development and growth and created a successful mental, physical and spiritual shift within.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the course of this journey and from where I am at currently, it’s this:

Invest in yourself. Invest in your personal growth and development.

Choose and read books that quench your thirst for learning and betterment. The way you live your life is what ultimately makes you successful. Live with purpose and you’ll cultivate the success you seek.